Conversations with Matthew Fry: Part One.
WHO IS MATTHEW FRY
I’m just an average guy, I guess–I don’t really think there is anything special about me. I’m just a guy who goes to work everyday & likes photography & likes people &…I like helping people now.
Were you always someone who helped people?
Haha, oh no, never.
SO, WHEN DID YOU BECOME THIS PERSON WHO LIKES TO HELP
I’ve always been somewhat of a mediator, but never really…wanted to help. Recently, what originally caused that was me going to meditation where I learned to do Vipassana meditation. I went to that…& then I stopped doing it & then I recently just started doing it again. It’s funny ‘cause when I first started heroines I wrote a post saying that I’d like to find a way to help people but I didn’t know how to go about doing it.
THAT’S HOW HEROINES GOT STARTED THEN
Well the way it actually started was I had my blog Fry Bros & I pretty much just posted photography & I had a couple of photos with, obviously, women & they were somewhat revealing, but they were still really nice photos, you know–like I post. But, my wife was like I love the photos, I think they’re great, but I don’t think they should be on your main blog. So…I started up another blog called heroines & I just started it to post photos , I really wasn’t trying to do that much with it–I just wanted to post photos that I liked. The next thing you know I got a Form Spring & people started writing in to me, & I was like hey baby remember that blog I started? Haha Now I have a bunch of followers & people are asking me for advice &…it’s kinda funny. But it’s cool I like it.
Yea, so do I.
Aw thank you. I have to say I really loved your photo.
Oh, thank you.
I love your accent too–you have a really cool accent.
Haha, if only I could hear it too–but thank you.
I always wonder what American accents sound like to people…do we sound dumb?
Uhm, no…everything is just drawn out more…I think, that’s the general difference.
Right.
YOU HELP WOMEN WITH THEIR INSECURITIES DAILY; HOW DO YOU GET THROUGH YOURS
It’s taking a while, I mean…everyone has insecurities. But, I’m slowly just working through mine trying not to let it bother me. I think the big thing is…being able to look at yourself objectively without reacting or judging or anything at all. Sometimes it’s easy for people to look at other people without judging, but it’s really hard to look at yourself without judging. In your mind you’ve built up this image of who you think you are; who you think you should be, &…you want yourself to be perfect & if anything that you see or hear or do makes you think you’re not perfect it upsets you. But…It sounds kind of cheesy, but you need to let yourself be okay with the fact that you’re not perfect, because…no one’s perfect. This image that we hold ourselves up to…no one is like that. Okay, you look in the mirror & you don’t like your nose–oh well, I mean…people have problems, everyone hates something about themselves….it’s okay. The images you see all the time in magazines, they’re completely photoshopped. When you actually start looking at people & just accepting the way you are & the way people are, things start looking a lot better.
That’s true.
YOU TALK TO WOMEN YOU’VE NEVER MET ALL THE TIME; WHO ARE THE WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE THOUGH
I guess the main woman would be my wife. She likes to remain private, she’s very shy. She actually doesn’t even let me take photographs of her. I wish she would but yea, she doesn’t let me. She doesn’t like the camera.
No sisters?
No, I have one sister. Obviously a mother; my sister is older, lives in Dallas. My mom lives…around Dallas.
It’s good that you mentioned your mom, I TEND TO THINK THAT THE RELATIONSHIP A MAN HAS WITH HIS MOTHER DETERMINES THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIPS HE HAS WITH OTHER WOMEN; WHAT DO YOU THINK
Yea, I agree with that. There might be some instances that go against that, but in general I agree with you. I had a good relationship with my mom. I was always the baby of the family.
It’s just the two of you? Or do you have brothers as well?
Oh, one brother.
WHAT WAS YOUR DAD LIKE; DID YOU HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM
Yea, he was the business executive that was always travelling, always working. My mom was the disciplinarian; my brother & I probably didn’t have a whole lot in common with my dad up until we started riding dirt bikes & then my dad would take us out riding. I think that brought us a lot closer together. But…we’re really close–quite honestly, both my mom & my dad… love them to death & I don’t think I could have been raised any better.
I think they did a good job, so…
Haha, thank you.
WHO ELSE IS INVOLVED WITH HEROINES
Just recently, in the past week I brought on two girls, Jennavev & Taylor, so they’ve been posting & responding.
Did you know them from before?
No, actually they were followers & both of them had sent in photos before.
PEOPLE HAVE SIMILAR BLOG IDEAS EVERYDAY BUT FAIL TO GET ANYWHERE WITH IT; WHAT DO YOU THINK MAKES HEROINES DIFFERENT & AS A RESULT SUCCESSFUL
First of all, thank you for saying it’s really successful. I’m actually pretty flattered. But, I can understand why they would have stopped. It’s not easy, a lot of times you take on problems of other people. Every time you answer someone’s letter, you have no idea if you said the right thing or responded the right way, because 9 times out of 10 you won’t hear anything back from them. Sometimes you have to learn to…I was telling Taylor & Jennavev–you have to learn to care deeply about everyone, yet let go the second you post. Because…If you sat there & worried about every single person that you wrote about…& I do–but I try not to let it bother me, because it could really get to you. & especially sometimes you’re dealing with people that are talking about killing themselves or injuring themselves or they’ve been molested or they’ve done this…God knows I don’t know everything–I never know if I say the right things. Also sometimes you go through down periods where you won’t have anyone talking to you for a while, & I remember at first I used to think oh no one’s talking to me but it’s okay, you just have to do what you want to do & take it one step at a time. If people write to me, I’ll respond, if people don’t write to me, it’s okay, I’m still doing what I do. I don’t do it just because I want to hear people talk to me & I want them to respond to me. It is tough, & it is hard & there are several times when I’m like oh my God am I doing the right thing? You know, am I responding the right way?…It has it’s ups & downs so it’s difficult…I can see why people don’t do it.
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